Formula for Increasing Personal Trust

graphic of Abe Lincoln talking in front of a crowd
Abe wisely skipped a gun duel. He wasn’t perfect.

Want to enhance your personal trustworthiness?

Give yourself a secret to keep.

Do something good (or bad, but the good route works for more people) and don’t tell anybody about it.

If you can perform the secret with style, so much the better…

Mom’s The Word

Each of us already has a secret life but for most folks its pretty shallow.

All their talk about people and events not only doesn’t leave much time for discussing important ideas but also sucks almost everything they know and are out along with it. No wonder so many complaints about empty lives and confusing purposes abound.

These average people are left with a physical shell of themselves that from a distance or with average eyes appears normal. But they’re not normal, they are all sucked out and mixed in with the minute details of everyday life.

Build Yourself Up

Who you are speaks so loudly I can’t hear what you’re saying.Β  Ralph Waldo Emerson

Don’t you find it interesting that as more and more “Trust Companies” are invented, there seems to be less trust?

Politicians can’t earn the public trust, bankers are despised by the very folks they serve and everybody with a big house is running some kind of Ponzi Scheme.

With the lack of corporate transparency today it appears like few employees are even trusted with secrets and if they are, even less of them can hold onto guarded information for long.

Keeping secrets is kind of like standing on one leg; you can do it but if you’ve never done it before its seems like torture after just a few minutes. However, if you can maintain your balance for even a short while, you can do it longer next time. And longer the time after that.

Insulate Secrets With Future

graphic of man looking up and words "trust can change" underneath
What stays the same for long?

Here is the cool part. No matter how hard you try, secrets have a way of getting out.

If you keep your pie hole closed and let the right concealed knowledge escape naturally your trust will stay intact and you still get to look like a hero! Double whammy!

Create some good secrets and carry them until you forget.

Your trust room will grow and so will you.

Do not keep this to yourself.

Thank you, friend.

Barry out.

Stephen Covey’s son … uh, Stephen wrote this fabulous book which I just finished reading. I was surprised how much new information it contained because I thought his dad had pretty well covered the topic. Lots of real world instances where trust or lack of it got the junior S. Covey into hot water and how he got out of it. Very good read and a must have for any serious entrepreneur.

6 Responses to “Formula for Increasing Personal Trust”

  1. Very interesting post, Barry, and some very thought provoking statements. I love the one about more trusts but less trustworthy….very true.

    Enjoy the journey.

    Mandy

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  2. Like Mandy said,this is an interesting post Barry. Reminds me of a P.G. Wodehouse story, where a chap used to go up to complete strangers at a party and whisper in their ear; “I know your secret”. EVERYONE has secrets, so he gets a lot of free drinks to keep quiet. πŸ™‚ I haven’t tried this out myself, and I’m not sure if it would work.
    John

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  3. Hi Barry,

    I have just read a couple of your posts and firstly I would like to say your site is looking great. πŸ™‚

    I am enjoying reading your posts, they are very thought provoking. I like the fact that you are adding the imagery and videos too. Great content! Your style and personality are starting to come through! πŸ˜‰

    Keep it up! I will see you back here soon! πŸ˜›

    Jacinta πŸ˜€

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    Barry Williams Reply:

    Good Day Missus,

    Thank you so very much for your kind words. You saw right through me, Jacinta – that’s exactly what I want to do – provoke thinking!

    Thank you for visiting and I will explore your sites more, too.

    Have a grand day, friend.

    Barry

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  4. Hi Barry…well, Jacinta was right…your posts definitely provoke thinking! Started on one and continued reading through a few of them. Each one I found myself “pondering” what you had said. Some I even had to go back and read a second time because my mind just had not wrapped itself around what was presented…you stimulated my mind to think on so many different things!
    You are exercising my mind…thank you!
    Your blog is looking real good…keep it up!
    Kathy

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  5. Hi Barry

    Every time that I read one of your posts I am taking by surprise, not only by the content but by your very unique take on the subject. As my colleagues have said before me, your posts are nothing if not thought provoking and you know that thought does not come easily to a lot of us.

    Also, it’s great that you have put your picture up, I like to know who I am speaking to.

    Great Blog – Best, Theresa

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