“Well, what did you expect?!”
Many folks are caught off guard by the above query on account of they were not expecting ANYTHING.
Here they were, just navigating their personal stream of consciousness and then Bam! Their apple cart is tipped over for no apparent reason.
And what is puzzling the person whom asks this often smug rhetorical question is: “Hey, this seems pretty obvious and you didn’t consider it?!”
Look Behind or Look Ahead but LOOK
An interesting twist on many people’s consciousness is their inability to realize that if hindsight can be 20/20, that very same skill of recognizing causation allows us to project potential into our future.
Anyone can say – “Oh man, I can’t believe you didn’t see that coming!” or “Sheeoot brother, everyone knows that dude is a turd.”
Fewer folks though, are so bold at seriously predicting their destiny and that’s a crying shame because if we don’t engage our capacity for expecting a better future, there is slight chance one will unfold by accident.
“Expecting the world to treat you fairly because you are a good person is a little like expecting a bull not to attack you because you are a vegetarian” – Dennis Wholey
Who is Expecting What When?
One of the ways you are familiar with the seemingly disconnected force of expectation is through representations like the numbers on a clock.
In your mind you are aware that somewhere at this moment in time there are people assuming you will show at a 2:00 pm meeting and you are already ten minutes late. Are your expectations of their expectations having any impact on you? It’s all just thinking, you know… 😎
This sense of urgency manifests itself physically as shortness of breath, a ball in your gut and through millions of tiny beads of sweat which are now breaking out all over your soon-to-be-stinky body.
Pretty powerful stuff, huh?
And all that is required to engage this incredible force for positive effect in our own lives is that we contemplate our reality’s potential by actively expecting things to get better.
Because whether we expect things or not, they are going to happen.
Thank you, friend.