What is a Friend?

graphic showing two friends
Hello Friend #419… You’re My FAVE!

Five Hundred Friends?

I hear of some folks these days having hundreds of well wishers and I wonder;

  • where do they find time for all these buddies?
  • how much time must one invest with someone to be a friend?
  • don’t they have anything else to do?

Too Many Pals = None

What concerns me about such seemingly harmless behavior is that few people have enough true friends these days and yet they seem to be going cheaper by the dozen.

Folks find themselves in positions where they have no one they can trust or share secrets with and they wind up having to pay “professionals” to act out this role for them. Of course, they’re not called professional friends, they’re called psychiatrists or counsellors but really, they’re highly paid friends.

I think the reason that most of us have only the necessary support from those chosen few who are concerned about our existence is because of the limited understanding of what friendship is all about to begin with.

Buddy, You’re Different

Real friends are the people who know you and like you anyway.

graphic showing detective with big eye in magnifying glass
Hey! You Have Freckles! Yuck! We’re Done!

They don’t expect you to be perfect and they recognize your limitations. True friends are the people whom we can let down our hair around and as I get older my hair is in just as short supply as loyal and non judgemental friends.

The cool thing is that a friendship can be started at any time simply by cutting someone enough slack to allow their character to shine through. And unlike the person I described above, we don’t need a million friends, even just a couple of good compadres will do.

Hail, I’d settle for even one.

Thank you, friend.

Barry out.

3 Responses to “What is a Friend?”

  1. Hi Barry,

    The word “friend” is one of the most abused words around, along with “love.” After five minutes of meeting someone, they’re already your friend, or you love them.
    They’re only these things if they’ll be around in the bad times, as well as the good. That’s when they prove themselves.

    Best regards,
    George Nieves

    Thanks for the comment George. I consider everyone my friend until they prove otherwise and I would like other folks to treat me the same way. I do agree that the word friend is misused so I guess we need some guidance on how to walk the talk.



  2. Hi Barry, thanks, good post. It’s good to give people a chance to let themselves shine through. Not enough of that going around today. As the saying goes, you can’t judge a book by it’s cover. Terry Conti

    Thanks Terry.



  3. wanted to thank you for this great read!! I definitely enjoying every little bit of it I have you bookmarked to check out new stuff you post


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